For this father, traditional grounding didn't seem effective enough.
According to Yahoo News, Jared Cramer's 13-year-old daughter, Julia, racked up a $541.36 phone bill because of data charges for Instagram posts. His daughter is "a wonderful child who has a great attitude about life" and an honor student recognized for her work with special-needs adults, Jared Cramer told Yahoo News, but he sought to teach her that accountability matters.
So instead of an old-fashioned discipline, he took his daughter's designer belongings, leaving her with only necessities, locked them up with a padlock, and placed a Post-it note on all items that detailed how many chores she'd have to finish to get them back, Yahoo News' article indicated.
Jared Cramer told WNCN a fresh approach to punishment paid off.
Julia woke up at 6:30 this morning when I woke up, and she started doing chores, Jared Cramer said. She said, You know what dad, I know you love me, I know I messed up and Im gonna work this off.'
According to Yahoo News, Julia Cramer not only respected her father for his approach, but she also thought about how her phone bill folly had future ramifications.
"She realizes the extra $500 could have been money put into her 529 [college account]," Jared Cramer said.
Jared Cramer isn't the only parent disciplining children with teaching a crucial life lesson in mind.
When mom blogger Lynette's three children ran afoul, sending them to their rooms seemed ineffective, The Huffington Post reported.
Instead, Lynette created a point system, and when her kids accomplished 500 points of chores, they weren't in trouble anymore, according to The Huffington Post.
"This worked out better than I could have ever imagined," Lynette wrote on her blog. "My oldest son got right to work and earned his 500 points in one day. The other two are getting closer and working hard too! We had a nice dinner last night prepared by my son."
In fact, any creative punishment with a clear objective like those of Lynette and Jared Cramer leaves an impression, according to ParentMap.
For example, mother of three Molly Frierman Jolly realized her children didn't assume responsibility for their toys, so she announced any of her kids' items left out at night would become "mommy's property," according to ParentMap.
Jolly collected the untidy toys, put them in a crate and even authored a jingle to make her discipline's intentions obvious, ParentMap reported.
"You left it out, and now it's mine. If you want it back, do a chore to pay the fine," Jolly's tune read.
Contrasting with grounding that consists of sending children to their rooms, examples like these set a precedent and instruct kids about what they must accomplish to be in the right, Amy Morin, a psychotherapist and author of "13 Things Mentally Strong People Dont Do," told Yahoo News.
She said children will stop making the same mistakes when parents place the responsibility back on them.
Logical consequences like taking away privileges can be very effective," Morin said. "They work best when there are clear instructions on what kids need to do to earn their privileges back."
According to Yahoo News, Jared Cramer's 13-year-old daughter, Julia, racked up a $541.36 phone bill because of data charges for Instagram posts. His daughter is "a wonderful child who has a great attitude about life" and an honor student recognized for her work with special-needs adults, Jared Cramer told Yahoo News, but he sought to teach her that accountability matters.
So instead of an old-fashioned discipline, he took his daughter's designer belongings, leaving her with only necessities, locked them up with a padlock, and placed a Post-it note on all items that detailed how many chores she'd have to finish to get them back, Yahoo News' article indicated.
Jared Cramer told WNCN a fresh approach to punishment paid off.
Julia woke up at 6:30 this morning when I woke up, and she started doing chores, Jared Cramer said. She said, You know what dad, I know you love me, I know I messed up and Im gonna work this off.'
According to Yahoo News, Julia Cramer not only respected her father for his approach, but she also thought about how her phone bill folly had future ramifications.
"She realizes the extra $500 could have been money put into her 529 [college account]," Jared Cramer said.
Jared Cramer isn't the only parent disciplining children with teaching a crucial life lesson in mind.
When mom blogger Lynette's three children ran afoul, sending them to their rooms seemed ineffective, The Huffington Post reported.
Instead, Lynette created a point system, and when her kids accomplished 500 points of chores, they weren't in trouble anymore, according to The Huffington Post.
"This worked out better than I could have ever imagined," Lynette wrote on her blog. "My oldest son got right to work and earned his 500 points in one day. The other two are getting closer and working hard too! We had a nice dinner last night prepared by my son."
In fact, any creative punishment with a clear objective like those of Lynette and Jared Cramer leaves an impression, according to ParentMap.
For example, mother of three Molly Frierman Jolly realized her children didn't assume responsibility for their toys, so she announced any of her kids' items left out at night would become "mommy's property," according to ParentMap.
Jolly collected the untidy toys, put them in a crate and even authored a jingle to make her discipline's intentions obvious, ParentMap reported.
"You left it out, and now it's mine. If you want it back, do a chore to pay the fine," Jolly's tune read.
Contrasting with grounding that consists of sending children to their rooms, examples like these set a precedent and instruct kids about what they must accomplish to be in the right, Amy Morin, a psychotherapist and author of "13 Things Mentally Strong People Dont Do," told Yahoo News.
She said children will stop making the same mistakes when parents place the responsibility back on them.
Logical consequences like taking away privileges can be very effective," Morin said. "They work best when there are clear instructions on what kids need to do to earn their privileges back."
